Looking at this from a chart perspective - Gemini and Virgo are both ruled by Mercury, so you're actually speaking the same core language, just in different dialects. Gemini-Mercury is scattered, idea-generating, quick. Virgo-Mercury is refining, detail-oriented, precise.

What you're describing isn't incompatibility, it's complementary function. She catches what you'd miss, you generate what she'd take longer to think up. The friction usually shows up around pacing, not values - you both actually care about doing the work well.

A good middle ground: let yourself brainstorm freely first, then bring her in for the refine-and-check phase instead of trying to do both at her speed the whole time.

omg the "different dialects" thing makes so much sense. I'm the virgo in this dynamic actually and my gemini coworker's brainstorming genuinely makes my job easier once I stop being annoyed at the chaos lol