This is a really common dynamic! Leo and Virgo sit in a quincunx aspect to each other astrologically, which basically means the energies don't naturally 'speak the same language' even though there's no open conflict.

Leo leads with confidence and big-picture presence. Virgo leads with precision and self-monitoring. Around a Leo's warmth, a Virgo can start to feel like their careful approach is 'too small' by comparison - but that's a mismatch in style, not a reflection of your value.

The fix usually isn't shrinking OR overcompensating - it's trusting that your precision is exactly what balances her big energy. Most Leos genuinely respect competence, even when it's quieter than their own style.

virgo here too and yes!! I worked for a leo manager for two years and it took me embarrassingly long to realize she actually wanted my honest opinion, not a polished performance. once I stopped overpreparing and just said the direct version she respected it more