wait the 'no volume knob' thing just explained my last three relationships in five words

Great question - Scorpio intensity comes from a few layers working together.

As a fixed water sign, Scorpios have deep emotional currents (water) that don't easily shift direction (fixed). They're also ruled by Pluto, the planet of transformation and what's hidden beneath the surface. Combine that with co-rulership by Mars (drive, intensity, will) and you get someone who feels everything at full voltage.

For a Leo sun, you're both fixed signs - you both commit fully. But Leo often wants recognition and warmth expressed outwardly, while Scorpio's intensity runs deep and inward. That tension is part of the pull.

The three-in-a-row pattern is worth exploring in your own chart. What does your Venus placement look like? That often explains what we're drawn to.