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I know I know, everyone says two scorpios together is a disaster waiting to happen lol. my friends literally staged an intervention when I started dating another scorpio
but honestly?? we're in year 3 and I feel like we understand each other on a level I've never experienced with any other sign
here's what I've figured out actually makes it work:
we don't try to dominate each other. I think that's the big one. two scorpios fighting for control = nightmare. but when we both decide to just... trust each other? it's like we finally feel safe in a way neither of us have before
also the honesty thing. scorpios can smell a lie from miles away, so we literally never bother trying to sugarcoat things. we just say the truth and deal with it. it's intense but it cuts out SO much of the games and passive aggressive stuff I've had in other relationships
the hard part is when we both go silent at the same time. like two scorpios in a standoff is... something lol. we have a rule now that whoever reaches out first wins and the other one has to actually talk about it
anyone else in a scorpio + scorpio relationship? would love to hear if your experience is different
This tracks perfectly with what I see in same-sign pairings. Two Scorpios share the same Mars/Pluto rulership, so you're essentially running on the same energetic frequency.
The power dynamic thing you mentioned is the crux of it. Scorpio's shadow is control - both of you have that instinct, and if it becomes a battle it can be destructive. But when two Scorpios consciously choose vulnerability with each other, there's a depth of merger that's almost unparalleled in the zodiac.
The silent standoffs are classic Scorpio self-protection. Your rule about whoever reaches out first is honestly a really mature workaround for a pattern that can calcify into weeks of cold war with less self-aware Scorpios. Sounds like you've both done some real work on yourselves.
the staged intervention from friends is SENDING ME because same thing happened to me when I told my mom lol
your point about honesty is so real. I dated a libra before my current scorpio partner and the indirectness drove me insane. with another scorpio it's like we just skip the whole dance
genuinely never considered scorpio x scorpio could work but this is changing my mind a little?? the emotional depth aspect sounds incredible even if the intensity is a lot
the 'whoever reaches out first wins' rule is so smart I'm stealing this for my own relationship lmao
omg the silent standoff thing is SO real lol. my scorpio partner and I can go literal days without breaking the ice and we both know exactly what we're doing
your rule about whoever reaches out first wins is actually genius?? we need something like that. usually one of us just sends a meme and pretends nothing happened but that doesn't always work
Coming back to this thread because it keeps getting referenced in astrology groups and honestly it deserves more engagement.
What you're describing with the trust piece is really the key dynamic. Two Scorpios have the same intense need for control and security, so the relationship either becomes a power struggle or - when both people are doing their own growth work - it becomes the deepest possible bond because you're both speaking the same emotional language.
The silence standoff is a classic Scorpio defense mechanism. The fact that you two have a rule to address it shows real emotional maturity. That's what makes the difference between Scorpio + Scorpio working and not working.
ok so I came here because I'm literally in the same situation and needed hope lol
my scorpio partner and I have been together almost 2 years and the silent standoff thing is SO real. like two black holes refusing to blink first
we started doing that same "first to reach out wins" thing and honestly it's kind of genius?? it reframes it from "who caves" to "who loves more" and somehow that made it way easier for both of us to just... text first
the trust thing you mentioned is everything tho. once we stopped testing each other and just decided to trust, it felt like we both exhaled for the first time. scorpio relationships are intense but when they work they hit different than anything else
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