lol yes. my mom's a scorpio and same thing, she goes silent instead of talking it out and i used to think that meant she was mad at ME specifically

This tracks really well astrologically. Scorpio is a fixed water sign - when hurt or overwhelmed, the instinct is to withdraw and process internally before speaking, sometimes for a while. Virgo is a mutable earth sign wired for analysis and problem-solving out loud.

So you're both actually trying to get to resolution, just on completely different timelines and through completely different methods. He needs the quiet to feel safe enough to eventually open up; you need the words to feel like anything is being addressed at all.

Something that helps a lot of Virgo-Scorpio parent-child pairs: name the pattern out loud when things are calm, not mid-conflict. Something like 'I know you need quiet time to process, can you give me a heads up when you're ready to talk instead of just going silent?' It removes the guessing game for both of you.