so my husband and I are both Cancers and I see so many posts online saying same-sign couples are intense or too much... and honestly? they're not wrong lol but also not the full picture

we've been together 11 years, married 8, and the thing nobody warns you about when two Cancers fall in love is that you BOTH feel everything deeply. like fights aren't just fights, they're entire emotional journeys. we don't just argue about dishes, we process our childhoods about dishes somehow??

but here's what also nobody tells you: when it works, it works on a level that's hard to describe to people with more "logical" partners. my husband just GETS it when I need to stay home instead of going out. I never have to explain why I'm crying at a commercial. he already knows.

the hard part we had to learn: neither of us is naturally good at conflict. we're both avoiders. we had to get into couples therapy in year 4 because we were just... not talking about things and then withdrawing into our shells at the same time lol. that was rough.

therapy genuinely saved us. we learned how to be the first one to reach out after a fight instead of waiting. that was huge for us.

anyone else in a Cancer + Cancer relationship? curious how others navigate the emotional intensity