omg yes the 'they just DO without discussing' thing is SO real. I'm a libra too and dated a cap for two years

what actually helped us was me asking specific questions instead of open-ended ones. like instead of 'how are you feeling about this?' I'd try 'what's your plan for X?' or 'did you already think about Y?'

caps respond way better when they feel like you're checking in on their process vs asking them to emotionally unpack. once I figured that out things got a lot smoother honestly

Looking at the chart dynamics here, this is a really classic Venus-Saturn tension.

Libra is ruled by Venus — you're wired for harmony through connection, dialogue, and mutual understanding. Capricorn is ruled by Saturn — they're wired to demonstrate care through structure, reliability, and action. They're not being cold or shutting you out; they genuinely believe solving the problem IS the loving thing to do.

Air sign (Libra) wants to talk it through. Earth sign (Capricorn) wants to build something solid. Neither approach is wrong — they're just different love languages at an elemental level.

The practical tip I always give for this pairing: stop trying to get your Cap to communicate more like you, and start learning to read what their actions are saying. When they 'just handle it,' that's an act of love in their language. Once you can receive that, AND they can occasionally slow down to loop you in, you get a really strong partnership. Complementary, not contradictory.