just broke up with my cancer partner... aries people can you relate?

firemoon_ariaAuthor

so after 2 years my cancer ex and I finally called it quits and honestly? I think we both knew it was coming

I loved them so much but we just wanted such different things. they needed so much reassurance and emotional processing time, and I wanted to just... move forward and DO things. every argument felt like I was being too intense and they were being too sensitive

the weird part is I don't regret it. like I learned so much about myself through that relationship. I never knew how impatient I could be until I dated someone who needed me to slow down. and I think they helped me get more in touch with my feelings even if it was frustrating in the moment

any other aries been through something similar? how did you grow from it?

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ram_at_heart

omg yes been there. dated a cancer for 3 years in my early 20s. the push and pull was SO real

I felt like I was always hurting their feelings without meaning to and they felt like I never cared enough. looking back I was just really bad at expressing emotions in the way they needed

now I'm much better at actually pausing and checking in with partners. that relationship taught me that being direct isn't enough - you also gotta be gentle sometimes

MarcusAstroMod

This is such a classic fire-water dynamic and it sounds like you both handled the ending with real maturity.

Aries and Cancer actually have a lot to teach each other - Aries shows Cancer how to be brave and take action, while Cancer shows Aries the value of emotional depth and nurturing. The friction comes from different speeds of processing and expressing emotions.

The fact that you can look back and see what you learned? That's real growth. Many people just blame the other sign and move on without reflection.

cosmic_bee

not aries but cancer here lurking lol

my aries ex and I had similar issues. they always felt like I was too needy and I felt like they didn't care. we didn't end things as gracefully as you but years later we're actually friends now and I'm grateful for what that relationship taught me about standing up for myself

firemoon_aria

thank you all for sharing!! its really helping to hear other perspectives especially from the cancer side

@cosmic_bee thats actually really cool that you're friends now. I hope we can get there eventually. we still care about each other we're just not compatible as partners and thats ok

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