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ok so I need some help here lol
my best friend is a Virgo and I love her to death but EVERY time I tell her about something I'm excited about, she immediately points out everything that could go wrong or needs to be improved. like... I just wanted you to be excited with me??
I'm a Sagittarius so I'm already all over the place with my ideas and energy, and she just kinda... deflates everything with her "well did you consider..." energy
I know she means well, I know she's not trying to be mean. but how do you actually communicate with a Virgo so they don't pick apart everything you say? do I just stop sharing things with her?? that feels sad
any advice from people who have Virgo friends/partners would be really helpful
This is such a classic Virgo-Sagittarius dynamic and honestly it comes down to understanding HOW Virgos process love.
Virgo is ruled by Mercury and is an earth sign — their way of showing care is by helping you avoid problems. When your friend points out flaws, she's not trying to rain on your parade, she's literally trying to protect you. That IS her excitement.
A few things that might help:
Tell her what kind of support you need upfront. Before sharing something, say "I just need to be hyped up right now, analysis later" — Virgos actually respect direct communication and will adjust.
Also, try asking for her critique intentionally sometimes. If she feels like her analytical nature has a place and is valued, she's less likely to default to it when you just want enthusiasm.
Sag + Virgo can be a really complementary friendship once you find the communication rhythm. You bring the vision, she spots the gaps. That's actually a powerful combo.
omg are you me?? I have a Virgo sister and it's the SAME thing
I started just texting her "hype mode only please" before I share big news and honestly it works so well lol. she laughs and then actually just gets excited with me
the "tell me what kind of support you need" thing is so underrated for every sign tbh
but yeah Virgos really can't help analyzing, it's like hardwired into them. my Virgo partner does the same thing and once I understood it as love language rather than criticism it shifted everything for me
wait I'm a Virgo and this thread is making me realize I probably do this to my friends 😭 I genuinely think I'm being helpful. gonna try to ask people what they actually need first
ok the "hype mode only" thing is genius and I'm absolutely using it
also ocean_child omg it's so sweet that you took it that way, the self awareness is very not-Virgo stereotyped haha. it does help to hear that it comes from a good place
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