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ok so I've been friends with a Pisces for like 3 years and we LOVE each other but sometimes our conversations just go sideways and I don't understand why
as a Libra I try to be logical and balanced when we disagree on stuff. I lay out both sides, I explain my reasoning, I try to stay calm. and somehow this makes them feel like I'm being cold or distant??
like they get emotional and I get more... analytical? and then they interpret that as me not caring about them which is the OPPOSITE of what I'm doing
and on my end - they'll say something really vague or intuitive and I have no idea what they actually want from me. are they venting? asking for advice? just sharing feelings? I never know
does anyone else have this dynamic with a Pisces? how do you actually get on the same page communication-wise
omg this is so relatable!! I'm a Libra with a Pisces best friend and yes the communication thing is REAL
what helped us a lot was I started just asking straight up - "are you venting or do you want advice?" and she actually appreciated it so much
turns out she thought I already knew lol
This is a classic air-water communication gap. Libra processes through logic and language - you need to articulate things clearly before they feel real to you. Pisces processes through feeling and intuition - the emotion IS the communication, not just the words around it.
When you go analytical in conflict, Pisces reads it as emotional withdrawal, not engagement. Try naming the feeling first before the logic: "I feel X, and here's why I think that happened..."
For understanding what they need - honestly, just ask. Pisces usually appreciate directness more than Libra gives them credit for.
Pisces here!! can I offer some perspective??
when you go into "both sides" mode it genuinely feels like you're not taking my side at all, even if that's not your intention. I need to feel like you're WITH me before I can hear the balanced view
maybe try leading with empathy first and THEN the reasoning? like validate the feeling before the analysis
ocean_child this is actually so helpful to hear from a Pisces perspective!! I never realized the "both sides" thing could feel like abandonment
I'm definitely going to try leading with empathy first. also the asking what they need tip - so simple but I never thought to just... ask directly lol
omg this is literally my life with my Pisces sister lol. the "laying out both sides" thing - I did that for YEARS thinking I was being fair and reasonable and she kept saying I was being dismissive
took me way too long to realize she didn't want a debate, she wanted to feel understood first. like before any logic comes in at all
what actually changed things for us: I started just repeating back what she said before I responded. like "so it sounds like you felt hurt when X happened, is that right?" - not even giving advice yet, just making sure she knew I heard her
she told me later that was the first time she felt like I actually cared instead of just trying to solve the problem. which... ouch lol but also glad I learned it
it takes some getting used to as a Libra because it feels like you're stalling or being inefficient, but honestly it just speeds everything up because they're actually ready to listen once they feel seen
found this thread searching almost this exact phrase lol. libra with a pisces partner and the both sides thing was causing SO many fights until i saw this
gonna try the empathy first thing tonight actually
checking back in here - curious if leading with empathy first has shifted the dynamic at all for anyone in this thread. it's one of those things that sounds simple but takes real practice to make automatic
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