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ok so I've been friends with this sag for like two years and I genuinely love her but communicating is SO hard sometimes
like I'll try to bring up something that's bothering me and she just... brushes it off? changes the subject? laughs it off?? and then I end up feeling ignored and she has no idea anything was wrong
on the flip side when SHE wants to talk she'll just say whatever is on her mind with zero filter and I end up hurt and she doesn't get why
is this just a cancer/sag thing or is it just us lol. how do you guys actually make it work
omg this is literally me and my sag sister. she will say something so blunt and then be like 'what?? i was just being honest' and i'm standing there trying not to cry lol
what helped us was me just telling her directly when I need her to take something seriously. like literally saying 'hey this is important to me, can you just listen for a sec'. it works way better than hinting around it
This is such a classic water-fire communication dynamic. Cancer communicates through feeling and implication - you expect others to pick up on emotional cues. Sagittarius communicates through directness and broad strokes - they say what they mean and move on.
Neither approach is wrong, they're just speaking different languages.
The hack that actually works: Cancers, try being more literal when something matters. Don't hint, don't wait for them to notice. Just say 'I need you to hear me out on something.' Sags respond really well to clear, direct requests.
And if your sag says something that lands wrong, pause before reacting. Ask 'did you mean it that way?' nine times out of ten they didn't realize how it sounded.
following this thread!! I'm a cancer dating a sag and the communication thing is REAL
we've gotten so much better at it over time though. it just takes both sides being willing to learn how the other one works
the 'speaking different languages' thing is so accurate. once I stopped expecting my sag friend to just KNOW something was wrong without me saying it, things got way easier honestly
update: i actually tried the thing marcus mentioned, asking her "did you mean it that way?" next time a comment stung
she paused and was like oh no i just meant x, wasn't trying to be harsh at all. and that alone helped so much bc i realized i was assuming a lot of intent that wasn't actually there
still working on being upfront about what's bothering me instead of just hoping she'll notice lol. baby steps i guess but it's def getting easier
following this bc i'm a cancer with a sagittarius roommate lol. the blunt-with-zero-warning thing used to genuinely wreck me until i just told her straight up "hey i need you to soften the wording a bit when you're giving me feedback" and she actually adjusted a lot once she knew it mattered to me
think they just don't clock that words land different for us unless we actually say so
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