how do you even communicate with a sagittarius when you're a scorpio??

ok I genuinely need help with this

I've been seeing this sagittarius guy for a few months and I feel like we speak completely different languages sometimes??

like when something bothers me I need to actually TALK about it, dig into it, understand what happened. and he just kind of... shrugs it off and changes the subject?? he says I'm "too intense" but I'm like, isn't this just a normal conversation

and then other times he'll say something super blunt that kind of stings and when I bring it up he acts confused about why I'm upset

idk if this is a us problem or a scorpio-sagittarius thing. anyone else deal with this?

omg this is literally me and my sag best friend lol. I finally just learned to say what I need upfront instead of hinting at it? like scorpios kind of expect people to pick up on the vibe and sags just... don't

once I started being direct it got SO much better

the "too intense" thing!! my ex sag said that to me too and it stung every time

I think it helps to give them a little space after a conflict before diving deep. they kind of need to decompress first and THEN they'll actually engage with you

following bc I'm a scorpio interested in a sag and this thread is giving me a lot to think about lol

the bluntness thing is real - I've read that sags just say what they think without realizing how it lands. not trying to be mean, just genuinely unfiltered

ok I'm a sag and I have to say this thread is really eye-opening for me lol

the "shrugs it off" thing - we're not dismissing you, we genuinely just process stuff by moving forward?? like sitting in a problem for too long actually makes it harder for us to think clearly. but I get how that must feel like we don't care

the bluntness too... I've said things that landed way worse than I intended and had no idea until someone told me later. it's not malicious, our internal filter is just... not great

honestly the most helpful thing is what WillowBreeze said - just be direct upfront. sags respond SO much better to "hey this specific thing hurt me" than picking up on a vibe. we're bad at vibes, we're good at words

ok UPDATE because this thread genuinely helped me

I tried being more direct like everyone said and it felt so unnatural at first lol. like I had to literally stop myself from hinting and just say "hey when you said X it actually stung a bit" straight up

and he didn't get defensive at all?? he just said "oh damn I didn't mean it like that, I'm sorry" and that was IT. no big processing session needed. I was kind of shocked honestly

I think what SagBabe said really stuck with me - they're not dismissing you, they just move forward. once I stopped reading avoidance into it and started just... talking plainly, everything got easier

still a work in progress but it's way less frustrating now. thank you all seriously

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how do you even communicate with a sagittarius when you're a scorpio??

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