how do you actually communicate with a libra when you're an aries??

ok so I've been seeing this libra guy for like two months and I genuinely don't understand how he processes things

when we disagree about something I want to just talk it out right then and there and get to a decision. but he wants to weigh every single option and hear every side and then... still not decide?? it drives me absolutely insane

and I can tell when I push too hard he just shuts down and goes quiet which is the opposite of what I want

how do you aries people handle this? or if you're a libra reading this, what actually helps YOU feel heard in a conversation without the other person losing their mind lol

omg are you dating my ex lol

I'm an aries too and I had the exact same issue. what helped was literally just giving him a time limit. like ok we have until tonight to decide this. somehow that worked way better than trying to rush him in the moment

libra here!! please don't push us when we go quiet, that's the worst thing you can do honestly

we're not being difficult we just genuinely need to process before we can talk. give it like an hour and come back and I promise it'll be a way better conversation

the aries libra combo is literally the definition of opposites attract lol. my parents are this and they've been together 30 years

from what I've watched - my aries mom learned to ask questions instead of making statements. like instead of "we're doing X" she'd say "what do you think about X?" and my libra dad would actually engage instead of going silent

ok the time limit thing is actually brilliant I'm trying that

and stardust_riley thank you for the libra perspective that actually really helps to hear. I think I've been reading the silence as him not caring which is not the vibe apparently lol

aries dating a libra for almost three years here lol. the time limit thing genuinely works but what helped even more for us was changing the goal of the convo.

like I used to go in wanting a decision and he'd go in wanting to feel heard. those are two completely different things and we'd both leave frustrated.

now I try to start with "I'm not looking for an answer right now, I just want us to talk through it" - and suddenly he actually engages instead of shutting down. wild right??

the decisions still come slower than I'd like but they stick better when he's actually bought in vs when I pushed him into one

ok update for anyone following this: tried the time limit approach and it actually worked??

gave him until tomorrow evening to think about where we wanted to spend the holidays. he came back with three options and a pros/cons list lol which is very him but at least we decided something

the "I am not looking for an answer right now" framing from solarbee is also genuinely changing things. turns out he was always bracing for me to get frustrated, which made him shut down more. who knew

libra sun aries rising here and I feel like I have a unique perspective lol

when I am in libra mode I genuinely need to feel like all options are being respected before I can commit. if someone pushes too hard it feels like the decision was already made and I am just being asked to rubber stamp it

the questions instead of statements thing meadow_dreams mentioned is huge. "what do you think about X?" versus "we are doing X" are completely different conversations to a libra brain

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how do you actually communicate with a libra when you're an aries??

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