honestly the pacing thing doesnt fully go away but you find a rhythm. my capricorn husband still needs a beat before responding to big stuff and ive learned to just say what i need instead of assuming

same combo here and the hardest part for me was feeling like my spontaneity was being "managed" lol. once i realized he wasnt trying to control me, just genuinely needs structure to feel secure, it stopped bothering me as much

ok the "structure = feeling secure" reframe is helpful, gonna try seeing it that way instead of taking it personally. appreciate you both