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so I'm an aquarius and my partner is a virgo and I love them so much but sometimes we just... don't get each other at all
the hardest thing for me is how different we are about planning vs spontaneity. I'll want to drop everything and go on a random road trip and they're like "ok but we need to plan the route and book hotels and check the weather for the next 5 days"
and I KNOW they're being practical but sometimes it just kills the vibe?? like can we just BE for once
also the criticism thing... they say they're just trying to help but it feels like nothing I do is ever quite right
any other aquarius + virgo couples out there? what's the hardest part for you and how do you deal with it
omg the planning thing is SO real. I'm a virgo dating an aquarius and from my side it's frustrating too lol like I just want to make sure we don't end up stranded somewhere with no plan??
but honestly we've gotten better at compromising. I try to go with the flow more and he gives me at least a few hours heads up before spontaneous adventures
the criticism thing is the #1 struggle in my relationship too. my virgo bf will be like "I noticed you forgot to lock the door again" and I'm like... ok? why are we tracking this lol
what helped us was me telling him that I need him to also tell me what I'm doing RIGHT. like balance it out a bit. he didn't even realize how much he was pointing out the negatives
honestly the emotional expression difference is the hardest for us. I'm aquarius and sometimes I need space to process and my virgo partner takes it personally. like they want to fix everything immediately and I'm like I don't even know what's wrong yet give me a minute lol
but also? when we finally DO connect it's really good. the challenge is worth it imo
aqua here married to a virgo for 4 years
the spontaneity thing used to drive me crazy too but honestly? I started framing my random ideas as "options" instead of immediate plans and it changed everything
like instead of "let's go on a road trip this weekend!" I'll say "hey I've been thinking it would be fun to do a road trip sometime... maybe we could look at some routes together?"
it gives them the planning they need while still letting me be the idea person. win win
the criticism thing took longer to figure out. had to straight up tell my partner that I need them to lead with something positive first lol. now they'll be like "I love that you did X, but maybe next time we could try Y?" and it lands SO much better
wow ok this thread really blew up thank you all so much
@airy_drifter the framing it as "options" thing is genius?? tried it this weekend and my partner was so much more receptive. we actually planned a spontaneous trip together for next month lol (if that even makes sense)
also talked to them about the criticism thing and turns out they genuinely thought they were being helpful and had no idea it was landing as negative. we agreed on a little signal I can give when I need them to pause the feedback
still a work in progress but feeling way more hopeful about us. you all made me realize we're not broken, just different
omg the "options not plans" thing is genius actually
my ex was a virgo and i think part of why we didn't work was bc i'd just announce things like "let's go to the beach this weekend!" and he'd get all stressed about logistics lol
wish i'd thought to present it as a possibility first. communication styles are everything honestly
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