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ok so i started seeing this virgo guy a couple months ago and i'm an aries sun. and like... i really like him but the differences are SO real??
like i'll want to be spontaneous and go do something fun and he needs to plan everything out days in advance. or i'll say something without thinking and he takes it super literally and gets quiet.
the thing is when we actually connect it's amazing. he notices little details about me that no one else does and i help him loosen up and try new things. but sometimes it feels like we're speaking different languages
any other aries dating virgos? does it get easier or am i just setting myself up lol
omg YES i dated a virgo for 2 years as an aries and the planning thing is so real. i would literally just show up at his place like "lets go get tacos" and he'd be like "i already meal prepped for the week"
but honestly? he taught me so much about being patient and actually thinking before i act. and i helped him be more adventurous. we balanced each other out in a lot of ways
it does get easier once you both figure out each other's communication styles. like i learned to give him a heads up before springing things on him and he learned to be more flexible sometimes
Aries-Virgo is one of those pairings that astrologers call a quincunx - signs that are 5 apart on the wheel. They share almost no elemental or modal qualities which is why it can feel like you're speaking different languages.
But here's the thing - quincunx relationships often lead to the most personal growth because you're constantly being pushed outside your comfort zone.
Look at your moon and venus signs too. Sometimes the sun sign friction is balanced out by harmonious moon or venus placements. That "amazing connection" you describe when things click might be showing up there.
Aries brings courage and initiative to the relationship. Virgo brings thoughtfulness and attention to detail. When both signs respect what the other brings to the table instead of trying to change each other, it can actually work really well.
aries woman with a virgo husband here and honestly the first year was the hardest. we almost didn't make it past the 6 month mark because of exactly what you're describing
but once we stopped trying to make each other into ourselves it got so much better. he's my rock and i'm his fire lol. 4 years strong now
the key for us was just... accepting that we do things differently and that's ok. not everything has to be a compromise, sometimes you just let them be them
wait this is all so reassuring actually?? the quincunx thing makes so much sense and i love hearing from people who made it work
i think i needed to hear that it's ok for us to be different. i keep trying to get him to be more spontaneous but maybe i should just appreciate the way he is
thanks everyone honestly this helped a lot
jumping in as a virgo who dated an aries for 3 years lol
the "speaking different languages" thing is SO accurate. from my end i wasn't trying to kill the spontaneity, i just needed like... a heads up. even 30 min notice made a difference?? it's less about the plan and more about not feeling blindsided
the thing that actually helped us: she started texting me "adventure mode in an hour, you in?" and somehow that tiny bit of advance notice was enough for me to mentally prepare and actually get excited instead of anxious
it gets so much easier once you figure out each other's quirks. the noticing-little-details thing is how we show love, if he's doing that he's really into you
omg this thread is everything i needed to find right now
i'm aries too and was seeing a virgo for like 4 months and the "speaking different languages" thing is SO accurate. i'd send a spontaneous "let's do something tonight" text and he'd need like... a 3 day notice and a full itinerary lol
but honestly the detail thing you mentioned? that's what got me. my virgo noticed i'd mentioned offhand that i liked a specific kind of tea like two months earlier and showed up with it one day. no aries i've dated would ever
did you figure out a way to meet in the middle with the planning stuff? we kind of fell apart over it but looking back i think we just didn't talk about it enough
update from me since I left that last comment: I actually reached out to my virgo and we talked about the planning thing properly for the first time
told him what I told you all - that I wanted some spontaneity but would try to give more notice. he said that was actually all he needed to hear and he had no idea I felt like I was walking on eggshells
so yeah. communication. wild concept lol. thanks for this thread RubyFlare22 it kind of pushed me to have that convo
aries with a virgo best friend here - not romantically but I feel this so much
the planning thing is real but honestly once I stopped seeing it as "he is being difficult" and started seeing it as "this is just how he functions" it got way easier. now I genuinely appreciate having someone in my life who thinks things through
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