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so I (taurus sun) started dating this virgo guy a few months ago and honestly?? it feels like we just GET each other on this weird level
like we both appreciate the same things - good food, quiet nights in, planning stuff out instead of being spontaneous. but sometimes I feel like hes so critical of himself and it makes me sad for him??
also the stubbornness... when we disagree its like two brick walls lol
any other taurus/virgo couples out there? how do you handle the perfectionism thing
Taurus-Virgo is actually one of the most stable combinations in the zodiac! Both earth signs, so you share that grounded, practical approach to life.
The mutual stubbornness you're noticing is real - you're both fixed in your ways. But the good news is you usually AGREE on the big stuff, so the standoffs tend to be over smaller things.
As for his self-criticism, that's very Virgo. They hold themselves to impossible standards. Your Taurus energy - patient, accepting, steady - is actually really healing for that. Just keep showing up and appreciating him as he is.
taurus here married to a virgo for 8 years!!
the brick wall thing is SO real lmao. what works for us is just... giving each other space when we hit a wall. like literally walking away for an hour then coming back calmer
also virgos need to feel useful so let him help you with stuff. my husband lights up when I ask for his opinion on things
honestly the earth sign combo is underrated. my parents are this pairing and theyve been together like 30 years. boring to some people maybe but SO stable
omg the brick walls comment is SO real lol
my bf is a virgo sun and honestly the perfectionism thing took me a while to understand. like at first i thought he was criticizing ME but turns out hes way harder on himself than he ever would be on me??
what helped us was me just... reminding him that done is better than perfect sometimes. and he actually listens when i say it in a calm supportive way vs when im frustrated. taurus patience for the win i guess haha
also the stubbornness - we had to learn to take breaks during disagreements. like literally walk away for 20 mins and come back. game changer honestly
ok hi everyone coming back with a little update!!
so I took a lot of your advice to heart, especially about not taking his self-criticism personally and just... being patient with it? like someone said he's not criticizing ME, he's projecting his own standards onto himself and it just spills over sometimes
we actually had a really good talk about it a couple weeks ago. I told him I notice when he gets in that spiral and that I'm not going anywhere but it does affect me when he shuts down. and he was honestly so receptive?? like he didn't get defensive at all, he just said he didn't realize how much it showed
since then things have been so much better. he's been catching himself more and I've been better about giving him space when he needs to process instead of trying to fix everything (taurus instinct lol)
thank you all seriously, this thread helped me more than you know. especially the "earth signs understand each other on a level that's hard to explain" comment - that really stuck with me
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