honestly the earth sign combo is underrated. my parents are this pairing and theyve been together like 30 years. boring to some people maybe but SO stable

omg the brick walls comment is SO real lol

my bf is a virgo sun and honestly the perfectionism thing took me a while to understand. like at first i thought he was criticizing ME but turns out hes way harder on himself than he ever would be on me??

what helped us was me just... reminding him that done is better than perfect sometimes. and he actually listens when i say it in a calm supportive way vs when im frustrated. taurus patience for the win i guess haha

also the stubbornness - we had to learn to take breaks during disagreements. like literally walk away for 20 mins and come back. game changer honestly

ok hi everyone coming back with a little update!!

so I took a lot of your advice to heart, especially about not taking his self-criticism personally and just... being patient with it? like someone said he's not criticizing ME, he's projecting his own standards onto himself and it just spills over sometimes

we actually had a really good talk about it a couple weeks ago. I told him I notice when he gets in that spiral and that I'm not going anywhere but it does affect me when he shuts down. and he was honestly so receptive?? like he didn't get defensive at all, he just said he didn't realize how much it showed

since then things have been so much better. he's been catching himself more and I've been better about giving him space when he needs to process instead of trying to fix everything (taurus instinct lol)

thank you all seriously, this thread helped me more than you know. especially the "earth signs understand each other on a level that's hard to explain" comment - that really stuck with me

omg just found this thread and earthsign_emily's update made me so happy??

the part about having that honest conversation and him not getting defensive... that's so virgo actually. like when you approach them calmly they're SO receptive. they just shut down when they feel criticized

i'm a taurus too and my virgo partner does the same thing - gets in these little spirals where nothing he does is good enough. took me a while to realize my job isn't to fix it, just to be steady and let him know i'm not going anywhere

how are things going now?? would love a follow-up update if you're still around!

omg found this thread at like 2am and i'm so relieved lol

i'm a taurus and my girlfriend is a virgo and the self-criticism thing you mentioned... YES. she'll spend an hour replaying a conversation she had at work and beating herself up over one word she said. i just sit there like babe you are being so hard on yourself

but honestly it pushed me to be more patient than i've ever been with anyone. and she's helped me actually follow through on stuff instead of just dreaming about it forever

the stubbornness standoffs are real tho 😭 we've learned to just take a walk and come back to it later

hi!! saw the ask for an update so here goes lol

it's actually been really good. he's still hard on himself sometimes but now when i notice the spiral starting i just gently point it out instead of letting it build, and he catches himself faster too. feels like we're a team on it instead of me just watching from the sidelines

the stubborn thing is still a work in progress ngl but even that's gotten easier bc we both know we're not trying to "win," we're just both bad at backing down lol. baby steps

honestly this thread helped more than i expected, thank you all again

reading this whole thread bc im in almost the exact same spot rn (taurus dating a virgo, only a couple months in)

the self-criticism thing hits so hard, mine apologizes for stuff that doesn't even need an apology. gonna try the "gently point it out" thing instead of just internally being annoyed lol, thank you for posting the update