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ok so I've been seeing this taurus guy for about 4 months and I genuinely adore him but sometimes I want to shake him lol
like I get an idea and I want to GO. let's do it, let's book it, let's figure it out as we go. and he's like... let me think about it for a week. A WEEK.
it's not that he doesn't care - he clearly does, he's super sweet and thoughtful - it's just that our speeds are completely different?? I'm already on to the next thing before he's decided on the first thing
I know aries and taurus are not traditionally a 'great' match but honestly I feel like we bring out something in each other that neither of us has alone. he slows me down in the best way sometimes. and apparently I 'shake him out of his comfort zone' (his words)
but the friction is REAL. anyone else dated a taurus as an aries? or the other way around? how did you make it work
omg yes this is literally me and my taurus ex to a T (pun intended lol)
the pace thing is SO real. I used to get so frustrated but honestly looking back he helped me actually finish things instead of just starting a million of them
The Aries-Taurus dynamic is one of the most classic 'adjacent signs' pairings in astrology - and those come with a very specific flavor.
Aries is ruled by Mars (action, impulse, initiation) and Taurus is ruled by Venus (patience, pleasure, stability). These two planets are actually complementary in a lot of ways, but the timing mismatch you're describing is built right into the astrology.
What tends to make it work long-term is when Aries learns to give decisions space to breathe, and Taurus learns to trust that not every decision needs to be perfect before acting. If both people can appreciate what the other brings to the table rather than resenting it, this pairing can be genuinely grounding for Aries and genuinely energizing for Taurus.
The friction you're feeling is real - but it's not incompatibility. It's two very different orientations toward the world bumping up against each other. That friction can either wear you down or sharpen you both, depending on how you approach it.
I'm a taurus and I dated an aries for almost two years!! can confirm the speed difference is 100% the main thing
but honestly she was the best thing for me in terms of getting me out of my own head. I used to overthink everything and she just... didn't. it rubbed off on me a little
ok MarcusAstro that actually helped a lot - I never thought about it as the mars/venus thing but it makes so much sense
and @CosmicDreamer it's really good to hear the taurus perspective!! he's told me I push him to take more chances and I wasn't sure if that was a complaint or a compliment lol. sounds like maybe both in the best way
aries sun with taurus rising here and honestly I feel this on both sides lol
my last partner was an aries and I was always the one going 'wait wait wait, let me think' while they were already buying plane tickets. it drove us both a little crazy but also... we traveled to like 6 countries together because left to me alone I would have planned for two years and never gone
the pace difference is real but it's also kind of the whole point? you balance each other. the friction only becomes a problem when one person starts resenting what the other one brings instead of seeing it as the thing that makes the partnership work
sounds like you both already get that though which is honestly half the battle
ok I'm a taurus and I need to defend my people for a sec lol
when you say you want to GO and we say 'let me think'... we're not dragging our feet to annoy you. we genuinely need that processing time or we end up resenting the decision later. it's like you're already three steps ahead and we haven't even put our shoes on yet
but honestly? dating an aries was one of the best things that happened to me. my ex aries literally got me to book a spontaneous trip I'd been 'planning' for two years. sometimes we just need someone to say okay let's GO and we realize the thinking was just fear in disguise
the different speeds thing is real but it doesn't have to be a dealbreaker. give him advance notice on stuff (like 'hey I want to do X this weekend, just wanted to plant the seed') and I promise he'll show up way more enthusiastically
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